That tortilla de patatas looks AMAZING. And I so appreciate the actionable, concrete practices you offer in your newsletter. I'd be curious to hear more about how you apply learning from the day before in a future edition!
IF, on theoretical day #2, I look back at my notes (on a book or podcast or course) from theoretical day #1 and summarize them/think about them... that's the best... But I do it far too infrequently, often choosing to take new notes on day #2 and day #3 and so on and so forth
Tapping into adventure, meaning and purpose is what - I think - avoids the need to "create a habit". Doing something that's important to you, that brings you joy, isn't hard. Just like a child playing outdoors, or messing around with toys. They don't need to create a habit to do that. They simply love what they do.
If it is hard to create a habit, it's more likely that it's not as important...
I'd love to hear what you make of that perspective.
I hear you, and agree but, the things that have actually moved the needle for the sustaining of my habits are:
1. Community. If I’m not keeping up with a ritual/habit that’s important to me. I ask myself how can I create community around this? For me that’s connecting with some in person or online, or knowing someone is expecting a communication from me. People based accountability or practice cuts through a lot of noise and speeds up my action.
2. Paid coaching. I have 1:1 PT x2/wk and Pilates x1/wk. These non-negotiables happen without a doubt. I make consistent progress. Outsourcing the thinking to a professional and just turning up to do the work is a game changer. The ROI is 10x at a mental, emotional, behavioural, physical, decision making and life level.
I watched your video sample and was struck by the story of the client who took a month off to travel and had his most successful financial year ever. This seems somehow to relate to your goal to "help people wanting to create something big without the cost to their health or their relationships." I'm intrigued by this idea, because it goes against the concept that success requires a LOT of hard work, and that nothing worth building is built easily. In the end, I somehow think that both things are true, we have to work AND we have to know when to take a break. But how to get those phases of effort/relaxation right? I'd be curious what you have to say about that.
I love it when clients surprise themselves by doing something they thought was impossible.
Usually it's because of the unchallenged stories we tell ourselves. The ones that we pick up from our homes, our workplaces. We hear them all the time, and the seep into the annals of accepted thinking.
I think one key that unlocks getting the phases of effort and relaxation right is awareness. Any change starts with that. But it's an awareness that's open and curious to challenging those stories, like "I can't take a month's holiday because my clients will go to my competition".
Asking yourself the question "what do you know to be true" can also help that curiosity, too.
With all my clients, they know what they need to do. Very very rarely is it knowledge they require. It's about how to apply the knowledge. So once there is some awareness - of what's truly going on, and what the desired state is - then it's getting messy by understanding the importance of what it is that you want, what the downsides of not getting it are, and finding out what truly matters.
That moment when anyone does something they thought was impossible, whether it is me or someone else, is the absolute best. It almost feels holy to me when a human leaves their assumed limits behind and takes an action that comes from the awareness you describe rather than some old script about the way things are or ought to be.
That tortilla de patatas looks AMAZING. And I so appreciate the actionable, concrete practices you offer in your newsletter. I'd be curious to hear more about how you apply learning from the day before in a future edition!
Ah - thank you. It was delicious!
Thanks for the "thumbs up", too.
And, noted re a future edition about applying learning from the day before!!!
What ways have you found effective to apply your learning?
IF, on theoretical day #2, I look back at my notes (on a book or podcast or course) from theoretical day #1 and summarize them/think about them... that's the best... But I do it far too infrequently, often choosing to take new notes on day #2 and day #3 and so on and so forth
Love how your 1+2 suggestions are foundational Eric! Great pointers for 3-5 too, particularly no. 5 for me :)
I'm glad they resonated, Charlotte!
Tapping into adventure, meaning and purpose is what - I think - avoids the need to "create a habit". Doing something that's important to you, that brings you joy, isn't hard. Just like a child playing outdoors, or messing around with toys. They don't need to create a habit to do that. They simply love what they do.
If it is hard to create a habit, it's more likely that it's not as important...
I'd love to hear what you make of that perspective.
I hear you, and agree but, the things that have actually moved the needle for the sustaining of my habits are:
1. Community. If I’m not keeping up with a ritual/habit that’s important to me. I ask myself how can I create community around this? For me that’s connecting with some in person or online, or knowing someone is expecting a communication from me. People based accountability or practice cuts through a lot of noise and speeds up my action.
2. Paid coaching. I have 1:1 PT x2/wk and Pilates x1/wk. These non-negotiables happen without a doubt. I make consistent progress. Outsourcing the thinking to a professional and just turning up to do the work is a game changer. The ROI is 10x at a mental, emotional, behavioural, physical, decision making and life level.
I watched your video sample and was struck by the story of the client who took a month off to travel and had his most successful financial year ever. This seems somehow to relate to your goal to "help people wanting to create something big without the cost to their health or their relationships." I'm intrigued by this idea, because it goes against the concept that success requires a LOT of hard work, and that nothing worth building is built easily. In the end, I somehow think that both things are true, we have to work AND we have to know when to take a break. But how to get those phases of effort/relaxation right? I'd be curious what you have to say about that.
I love it when clients surprise themselves by doing something they thought was impossible.
Usually it's because of the unchallenged stories we tell ourselves. The ones that we pick up from our homes, our workplaces. We hear them all the time, and the seep into the annals of accepted thinking.
I think one key that unlocks getting the phases of effort and relaxation right is awareness. Any change starts with that. But it's an awareness that's open and curious to challenging those stories, like "I can't take a month's holiday because my clients will go to my competition".
Asking yourself the question "what do you know to be true" can also help that curiosity, too.
With all my clients, they know what they need to do. Very very rarely is it knowledge they require. It's about how to apply the knowledge. So once there is some awareness - of what's truly going on, and what the desired state is - then it's getting messy by understanding the importance of what it is that you want, what the downsides of not getting it are, and finding out what truly matters.
I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts, Rick
That moment when anyone does something they thought was impossible, whether it is me or someone else, is the absolute best. It almost feels holy to me when a human leaves their assumed limits behind and takes an action that comes from the awareness you describe rather than some old script about the way things are or ought to be.
💯 The script we keep reading from! It takes a holy leap of faith to switch to another script!